Author Archive

Eveline Kopachkov

So what’s wrong with conditional
love anyway? We see it everywhere
we look, so what could be wrong with it?
Imagine… that every time you pay
me fifty dollars, I tell you I love you.
We could do that all day, but at the end
of the day, would you feel loved?
No, because you’d know that I “loved” you only because you paid me.

Truth is, we simply can’t feel fulfilled by love we “pay for.”
We can feel loved only when it is freely, unconditionally given.
The instant we do anything at all to win the approval, acceptance or
respect of other people – with what we say, what we do, how we
look, etc. – we are paying for the attention and affection
we receive, and we can’t feel genuinely loved.

Eveline Kopachkov

Have you ever heard someone say or said yourself,
“I don’t know what I feel like doing anymore?” or
“I don’t know what feels right?”

With all the hype of “finding” our self, of “finding” happiness
or inner peace, of wanting, wishing, hoping and trying,
we have a tendency to play games in the mind, which
results in the perception that something is always missing.
So we keep on looking for that something… wait for something… chase after something.
The present moment never seems to be good enough! And that can be very painful.

Keeping this in mind, truth is, you are in fact always doing what you
“feel like doing” – whether you like what you’re doing or not and whether you
judge it to be right or wrong  - you are always doing what you feel
like doing, otherwise you’d be doing something else!

Nothing is missing and that’s reality. When something seems to be missing,
it’s mind fabrication, ego, passed on teachings, beliefs and conditioning.
Ultimately, we all move on when we feel like moving on.
It may be discomfort, new awareness or simply the readiness and will to
change our situation that motivates us. – Eveline Kopachkov