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Wisdom from Byron Katie

Andrew, Katie & Antonia

Andrew, Katie & Antonia

This past weekend I had the
honour of attending
Byron Katie’s Toronto seminar.
Many thanks to my good friend
Andrew Thompson from Inspiration
Works for a truly life freeing weekend.

Below are some of my notes from
the Byron Katie weekend. May they
empower you as  they did me.

Instead of putting each one in quotation marks please
know that all these quotes are credited to Byron Katie:

Don’t be nice, be honest instead.

As long as I think that something outside of me is a
problem – I’m a victim.

Peace is loving what you have as opposed to
wanting what you want.

Denial is a very painful thing.

Stress, depression and self-loathing is the effect
of an unenlightened mind.

When you are not believing you are beautiful,
you are ugly.

The only thing that you fear is what you think.

The prison is of the mind – there isn’t any other.

We can believe our thoughts or question them.

Who would you be without the thought “I’m unhappy”?

To serve you is to serve the world.

Who would you be without the thought “They need me”?

There is no way out but in.

I need me to really see the impact of my
thinking on me.

There is a divine order going on. When we believe
our stressful thoughts we can’t see it.

If there is a war in my home I look to me.

There is nothing out of order.

My invitation is to question what you are
feeling and believing about the world and
then find a better world.

What you are believing inside your head is
what is causing you the suffering.

Other than what you are thinking and feeling,
are you ok?

You take on the beliefs that brings on your suffering.

Suffering = believing your thought.
When you are suffering, look at and question
your thoughts.

Separate the thoughts you are believing from the person.

When you are enlightened, you project that
on to others.

I’m responsible to do all that I can do.
I can do nothing more.

No decision, no fear.  No hope, no fear.

All fear is a projection of mind.
When you know there is no hope to
project, there’s no fear.

When it ends inside of you, it ends inside of them.

The only freedom I know is to work on myself
and they will follow.

Everything I put up a wall against is exactly what
I need to enlighten me.

There are no problems. There are only confused heads.

Angry people are honest – they’re not pretending.

We are teaching all the time – just what are we teaching?

We’ve taught our children to use anger to deal with life.

If you understand, they will understand.
If you find the way, they will find the way and
love is the power.

Peace is my business and understanding myself
is my business.

What I am believing about you is the toxicity
being produced.

There are no toxic people, only your toxic thoughts
about them, and that is within you.

In the moment that I see him/her as toxic,
I am being toxic.

There isn’t any toxic people, only toxic belief
systems running in your head.

There is a teacher inside of you that is more powerful
than anything that you can see.

The moment you defend and justify you start the war
in you, in your home and in your family.

Meaning has to show me life. I don’t have to go
after it – it’s always there.

Who would you be without the thought “People
should realize and appreciate what I do for them”?

Wake yourself up to how you live your life wanting
credit. It’s exhausting. We use people to raise our
own self-esteem but it only lowers it.

I know that when I believe my thoughts I suffer.
When I question my thoughts the suffering ends.

Every time you question your thoughts you leave
the old world and enter a new one.

Depression is no more than believing a thought
that is not true to your soul.

There’s nothing that isn’t a gift.

Let me know which of these Byron Katie quotes
enlighten and awakens you.

Antonia Hagens

  • Chuck Lee September 29, 2010, 10:54 PM

    Hi, Antonia:

    I miss seeing you too, Antonia. I currently stay busy writing a biography of an important scientific discoverer and dear friend who passed away last year. I am also in an intensive rehab program following a stroke I suffered in January. I am determined to walk normally by Christmas. My daughters Vanessa and Erin are now 19 and 17 and in the unenviable process of transitioning from childhood to adulthood. I just acquired a new used car following a rear end collision that totaled my previous vehicle. Life keeps coming at us. How we choose to frame it determines our outcomes, our joy and our ability to discover possibilities.

  • Maureen September 30, 2010, 3:11 AM

    Hi Antonia and Chuck

    Thank you antonia for your notes, they resonate very very well with me. It is important we raise our vibrations to appreciation for ourselves as often as we possibly can. I find that it helps me when I tell myself “I Let Go and Let God” and “I am walking along a divine path with serenity, security and peace”. I realise there is nothing outside of me I can control but when I forget I find it is so relaxing and liberating to let go and say those words.


    I will send you some Reiki if you wish. We are all co-creators, here to help each other and sometimes when it is difficult to do it for ourselves we can allow others to help us in the process.

    Peace love, light and blessings to all you wonderful people who help to make the world a much better place to live.



  • Danielle September 30, 2010, 4:00 AM

    This is a beautiful one.

    If you understand, they will understand. If you find the way, they will find the way and love is the power.

    Thanks for sharing. Danielle

  • Helen September 30, 2010, 4:49 AM

    “Who would you be without the thought “They need me”?”

    That is powerful Antonia. I have a son who suffers from severe multiple phobias. I am actively supporting him and have been for decades. Sometimes in my mind I imagine him totally healed. When I do see him healed I realize that a small part of me is then not certain how to go on – the part of me that is defined by his disability and his perceived need for me. I am working with a Celtic shaman now on this very issue.
    Lovely to have you back ..

  • Antonia Hagens September 30, 2010, 6:53 AM

    Hi Amazing Chuck,

    Wow how fast time flies – you’re daughters are 19 & 17 – that’s incredible!!
    As always your soul shines through. I support you in seeing you walking by Christmas.
    Let me know if you want to come and see me for some Reconnective Healing and
    Neuro Structural Integration (NST). I have found that those two are a very powerful combination
    for body, structure and pain issues.

    Love as always,

  • Antonia Hagens September 30, 2010, 6:57 AM

    Great work Helen!! Another question to ask is “Is it absolutely true that he needs you?”

    Remember, you are doing an amazing job, because that is who you are.


  • Pat September 30, 2010, 8:17 AM

    Hi, Awesome Antonia,
    I am busy preparing for a move to the Phoenix area, from the mountains of New Mexico. This will just be for the winter (at least this year). Today is the last day of my husbands work. He’s retiring and we have a lot of fun things planned. We both do Reconnective Healing and The Reconnection. We haven’t done much of it here but are looking to practice in our new location. I really liked this quote
    “My invitation is to question what you are feeling and believing about the world and then find a better world.”
    How elegant and simple!!! I’m going to post this on my Facebook.
    Love, Pat

  • Pat September 30, 2010, 8:19 AM

    P.S. Forgot to mention I’m attending the Reconnection Mastry Conference in L.A. next week. Will you be there?

  • gabriel temesvari September 30, 2010, 8:54 AM

    Words of empowerment all of these quotes resonate truth. For me the seond one stood out. Byron Katie emanates love and you Antonia Delivered her words eloquently with love. Thank you antonia you are a beautiful spirit. Love and light…..namaste

  • Antonia Hagens September 30, 2010, 9:34 AM

    Hi Awesome Pat,

    That’s great that you are going to The Mastery conference.
    I won’t be there so please soak up as much as you can and
    send me your insights if you have a chance.

    Have a great time and say hi to Eric Pearl & Doug Devito from me.


  • Shar September 30, 2010, 10:54 AM

    Dear beautiful one, thank you!! for sharing this GORGEOUS info. with us, its truly resonating. We miss you too, but are always connected as we are all on the same “wavelength”/frequency, lol)):- AND VERY EXCITED for Franco’s wkend, part 2! Thk u for sharing the raw mp3s with us attendees of the 1st seminar as you work out the technical issues,so loving of you. MUCH LOVE & BLESSINGS dear Antonia, to you and your beautiful family, xoS

    PS I read thru all of these quotes, they are so powerful (I will print them off and read them repeatedly as beautiful reminders of the truth) – 1 Q. I had please is on this quote: “Angry people are honest – they’re not pretending”. (this is VERY TRUE) What is the deeper meaning of this please, we know that when we are angry we are at war, so NOT emulating love/peace/joyful energy which is of a higher, healing vibration and can work wonders on ourselves and others. Thus being angry isn’t what we want, yet we are honest when we are angry, as Byron says…the ultimate would be to be honest and peaceful, loving)):-

  • Vivian October 2, 2010, 11:21 PM

    Excellent & enlightening quotes! Thanks Antonia. I will share this with my friends who are ready 🙂